Saturday, March 20, 2010

Johns, tricks, punters, hobbyists, (aka clients)....the men you meet as an escort

I have met MANY types of males in this game, and although it isn't possible to categorize them ALL..you could say that they all fall into certain groups, and share similar traits...and most are not pleasant.

Mr 'Genuine': These are the punters you least resent dealing with. They are normally older men, say over 55, and for whatever reason they just cannot form relationships, often due to age or ill health. Many have been bereaved, or are nursing an infirm spouse. They simply don't have the chance to form relationships with females, and very often just seek companionship.This group has my sympathy for the most part.

However, the groups below, whose characteristics I will discuss in more detail below, generally earn only my contempt. The majority of these individuals are simply unwilling, or unable to form any kind of lasting relationship with anyone, and use prostitutes simply because it's an easy way to get their "kicks". Straight up sexual gratification is the name of their game, and these groups are always the hardest to deal with as they also like to delude themselves that you enjoy it as well (I know, they don't give up, do they?)...so with these guys cue ACTING SKILLS and harder work. Most of these men will be under 45, so that means more stamina, and more difficult for you to deal with. On the flip side, a large number of them will also be married, so will actually HAVE a life and hopefully leave you the fuck alone afterwards....

Mr 'Hobbyist': Now, the term hobbyist requires some explanation in the escorting context. Some men, in fact the majority of men that use prostitutes will do so "every now and again". It doesn't make up a substantial part of their life, and they will rarely see the same girl twice. These men are often in and out of relationships, and use escorts very occasionally when they feel like it. This leaves a second group of men who are known as "hobbyists", and these are people who pay for sex regularly, and over a prolonged period of time.
Hobbyists are exactly what the name suggests..they use escorts as a "hobby". They call an escort in the same way as most people call for a pizza. For these men, escorts have come to make up a substantial part of their lives. They will often be registered users on escort websites, and will write reviews. They will take a lot of time selecting and researching the escorts they use, and will often select women based on the sexual services they offer, i.e. two girl shows, unprotected oral, girlfriend experience etc. This is a group  myself and most of the escort community view with a mixture of pity and contempt.

Mr 'Nice Guy': Always nice, polite, presentable, charming...may seem like good boyfriend material, the type you'd take home to meet mother, but beware..they are usually hobbyists, and they were as nice to all the other escorts they've used as they were to you...in other words, they give us all the same spiel. These are the type you really need to be careful of as they can be disarmingly charming, but the old adage "If it seems to good to be true, then it probably is" would certainly apply here. If they really are such a "nice guy", then why are they using prostitutes? The younger they are, then the bigger the cause for concern...as we all know, guys who are under 35 normally shouldn't have a problem getting laid for free..but these guys are often fully fledged escort users, and may also be addicts. They are often hooked on the variety of sex they can obtain from escorts, and the feigned attraction and affection they get from these attractive women. Mr. 'Nice Guy' may often share some of the characteristics of Mr. 'Stalker' or Mr. 'Voyeur'. They will often extensively research the escorts they use, and during the encounter will try to make it as 'personal' and 'intimate' as possible. They will often want the full "girlfriend experience" to substitute the intimacy they otherwise are lacking. They will often want to talk a lot, and may want you to divulge personal details. The golden rule with these guys is to remember: A PUNTER IS A PUNTER, IS A PUNTER. Don't open the door ...these guys would like nothing more than to charm their way into your pants for free, and this particular type will be keen on seeing the same girls regularly. It is their fantasy that they will one day find one willing to shag them without payment involved.

Mr 'Kinky': Often confused with Mr. Nice, but can be differentiated on account of the naughty glint in the eye and the kinky activities that they secretly like to engage in. Now, like Mr. Nice, Mr. Kinky may often be pleasant, presentable, and come across as quiet and shy. But they have a naughty side that that they'd never discuss in polite company, and most probably not with the wife or girlfriend. "Naughty" is the definitive word with Mr. Kinky. He is the archetypal naughty schoolboy that never grew up, and probably never will..
Spanking, role play, school uniforms, and bondage are normally the orders of the day here, although he may have many  other 'kinks' such as transvestism, splodging etc. Mr. Kinky may often appear very unremarkable on the exterior, but is very drawn to the "naughty" or "forbidden". Some of his secret pleasures may well be pornography, and voyeurism, and he most likely spends a lot of time engaged in these activities.

Mr. Lonely: Now, let's face it, a lot of people use escorts because they are lonely, and all the different types mentioned may share these characteristics, but for Mr. Lonely, sexual gratification is not the sole purpose of the encounter. This character may be older, work very long hours, or be stuck in a lonely relationship for the sake of kids, and is often just desperate for someone to listen. Mr. Lonely often oversteps the escort/ punter agreement, and may end up falling in love etc. This type is generally more sincere. His motivation, unlike Mr. Nice, or Mr. Kinky is not just to get a free shag.

Mr. 'Stalker' / Mr 'Voyeur': This character is a very tricky customer to define, and one with which you need to exercise particular caution. Practically everything I have said above to define Mr. Nice Guy could be applied here, but this character is a bit more creepy, because he actually wants to get inside your head and your life. He feeds on it. He will research you extensively, usually on the internet trying to find information  about you. These characters again are also usually hobbyists. They will spend a lot of time scouring escort websites, and have probably registered on a few, and will write reviews. But these guys like to know from a distance what is going on in your life. They will search for things you have posted on message boards, search escort sites/ porn sites looking for pictures etc. They may tell you how much you remind them of their dead wife, or how much you look like the ex-girlfriend they've never quite gotten over...but as soon as you hear those kind of statements the alarm bells should be ringing...these don't tend to be mentally healthy people, and are the type most likely to engage in harassment.

Mr 'Regular': These guys are what the name suggests...regulars. This means they see you more than once, maybe twice, maybe 10 times. They could be any, or all of the above characters, but most often they are
Mr. Nice Guys.. Regulars are worth their weight in gold, as this is a sure source of income, and these fuckers know it.  A lot of punters who hope to become your "regular" or who want to see you again will attempt to ingratiate themselves with you by writing flattering reviews, or giving tips so that they get into your good books...ready for the next time they want to get into your knickers. I've lost count of how many times I've heard the line: "Well I'm not sure if you remember me......". No, actually tosser I don't. Why the fuck would I remember you?I took your cash, smiled sweetly, and forgot all about you same as every other punter that's ever walked in here and paid to fuck me (obviously that's what you're THINKING, but don't actually say it) Your reply should go along the lines of : "Oh yes.....you're that nice man from ..(think fast, insert location here)......OF COURSE I remember you! One of my best experiences ever!" or some other similar bullshit....It'll flatter them, and gain you a regular. ;-)

Mr 'Fetish': Mr. Fetish can be an interesting character. His sexual kicks come from fetishisms, and these are as diverse as you could imagine. Foot fetishes, food fetishes, tickle fetishes...the list is endless.
Fetishisms can include BDSM, domination, role play, pretty much anything....but the great thing about these guys is that they get more kicks from the actual "fetish" than the sex....so they won't be pounding away on top of you and obsessed with trying to "pleasure" you and  make you cum, unlike the more "vanilla" customers..(see below)